Women are special...

over the weekend i managed to to watch a cerekarama entitled "Rendang Untuk Mertua" screened on TV3. in one of the scenes, this script was uttered between Marina (played by the aspiring actress Fazura) and her husband;

"Hawa dijadikan dari rusuk Adam untuk dijadikan teman. Bukan dari kepalanya untuk dijunjung. Bukan dari kaki untuk dijadikan sebagai alas. tetapi dijadikan dekat dengan lengan untuk dilindungi dan dekat dengan hati untuk dicintai".

many know that Islam is a religion which liberalize the position of women in the society. in the Quran there is even a surah entitled Annisa (women) and in the religion many aspects of women are being paid close attention to.

but why women are still being oppressed even when more women movement are fighting for women's lib? more women are being manipulated, abused, bullied, harassed, denied justice, looked at as men's playthings, etc.

there are women issues which are circulating in national newspapers everyday e.g Nurul the singer claimed that she had been divorced three times (what are her rights, what did she do) while singer-composer husband Ajai denied (which one is right?, in sydney women who did not cover their head was labeled 'exposed meat' (is this an accurate perception?), the free lance Mongolian model who was blown to pieces after a love gone astray (what sick people would do this), and many others.

men are supposed to be protectors of women and women who are bestowed with compassion, love and affection in their heart should cherish their counterpart. together men and women are supposed to live together in the blessing of God. Where have we gone wrong?

Maya getting married

Received a wedding invitation from my ex-CFCS student, Dr Maya Sapira who's getting married to a Muslim convert this weekend. what grabs my attention was the verses captured on the card which says:

Ya Allah Ya Tuhan kami... "Satukan hati kedua mempelai seperti Engkau satukan hati Adam dan Hawa, Yusuf dan Zulaikha dan seperti Engkau satukan Muhammad (SAW) dan Khadijah" Tetapkanlah kasih antara mereka selagi tidak melebihi kasih padaMu.

it was a reminder that the love existing between two hamba Allah cant ever rival that of the hamba with the Lord, who holds the power above all. which is fitting because everything that is on this world is on loan to us by Him. thus even if you love somebody that much, and if there should ever be a conflict, be very sincere and give God the prioprity above everything or everyone else...

"Doktor Dan Anda" at Kelantan FM

The topic was "Penyakit Mata di Kalangan Pesakit Diabetes". it was exciting to see what went on in a conti room. received few phone-ins but none to do with diabetic complications!!

Jamuan Raya Oftalmologi

Vartan is out of Alias

the new season of Alias was finally aired last monday. i was glued to the screen, watching jennifer Garner in action. my heart was beating fast to see how the drama will unfold. last season ended with the promise of a 'living happily ever after'scene of Garner-Vartan going away for a much needed vacation to resume their romantic interlude, when suddenly Vartan/Vaugh admitted to leading a double life and assuming a fake ID. shortly after that, their car was hit and audience was left shocked and dumbfounded (at least i was) with the revelation from the seemingly so cool and innocent Vaughn.

so the fact that our heroine was duped right from the beginning didnt sit well with me at all, i was so damned curious how JJ Abrams is going to end all the suspense(or add more?).

so our Vaughn was actually a double-spy? this sounds so familiar, the script looks like it was re-written (started when our heroine was leading her double life). and suddenly in the middle of an escape, our couple received the bomb-dropping news, Sydney was pregnant with their child!! wow, the plot became juicier here... but what a heart-wrenching letdown, after choosing such a magnificent name for their baby (why were they expecting a baby girl, anyway?) Isabel Bristow Vaughn, Vaughn suffered a ventricular fib and the cardiac monitors finally showed a flatline... questions like if he was suffering a critical multi-organ failure why wasnt he in an ICU, ventilated and machine-supported, i have learnt not ask, i was enjoying myself tremendously and wouldnt mind being sidetracked from the medical galore.

i was feeling disappointed between seeing my heroine without her man and now after showing her prowess at spying, high kicking, aerogliding, genius code breaking, lock picking, seductress, etc. she was going to show us the magic of motherhood, or glad that she got away from her spineless timid and overshadowed counterpart. frankly, i considered him not fit for the magnificent Sydney Bristow, anyway.

i cant wait for the next episode as Sydney continues searching for the person responsibled for killing Vaughn and made her baby fatherless....

Standing vigil...

lighting a candle for your loved ones at their time of leaving us behind...my experience at this was remote since it happened to me so many years ago; 12 years to be exact. i have not let these memories resurfaced until now. but for me it was not a premeditated thing since it happened quite sudden without a warning and he left just like that!

this memory must be evoked by at least four predisposing news of illnesses, one - my own mum who has gone for the worse again, second - my brother in law with his acute myocardial infarct, third - Pam Mc Evoy's mother in Sydney whom i heard is dying and fourth - Mireille's brother in Geneva who had a recurrence of lymphoma again.

i hope they will all turn for the better because standing vigil is unpleasant for the loved ones. we never know what to expect and the best to tackle this is; to hope for the best but be prepared for the worst...

Heart attack and forgiveness

i was surprised by an early morning text msg from one of my nieces telling that my brother-in-law was admitted to the coronary care unit at 4.00 am. it was in fact a jolt because as far as i know, other than his smoking of rokok daun my brother-in-law does not have any other vices or a medical condition. he has always been hale and hearty, in fact was actively involved in making house repairs and construction around his neighbourhood.

true enough he suffered from an anteroseptal infarct with inferior ischaemia. when admitted his blood pressure was on the low side and the chest pain persisted even with isoket and heparin infusions, which is a bad sign. he was planned for an angiogram cum angioplasty/kiv rescue CABG if they see a bad sign i.e 3-vessel disease.

when i went in to see his much weakened condition, i was astonished to see his pale face and immediately he went into a tirade as he predicted the cause of his almost fatal condition was because of 'somebody' whom he felt he had wronged. he had been trying to ask for this person's forgiveness and he was deeply upset that that person should felt slighted for a small misdeed that my brother-in-law didnt mean to and it has caused a deep wedge between them. he went on and on and i was alarmed at the increasing heart rate evident on the cardiac monitor for fear he would get another infarct!

i tried to console him to forget about this person whom didnot feel a slight remorse over the broken 'silaturrahim' or did not pay a heed to him. i asked him to lie down and not get agitated, but his monologue went on... until the cardiologist assumed he was crying because of the chest pain, and generously gave him a dose of morphine to sedate and alleviate the pain.

apparently my brother-in-law had been trying to see 'this person' to ask for forgiveness for which it proved furtile. he wished that he could see 'him' even for a second to clear the air between them. i saw his sincerity on his lined and wrinkled face, it brought tears to my eyes.

what really saddened me was the fact that this 'person' whom he was talking about was someone closest to me... ! and i still remember what he said to me this morning, "....he's doing the same to me too!"

to my brother-in-law, i hope you'll survive this physical ordeal. i hope you will continue the path to health and i'll always pray for you.